Why sex is important to your wife

God's design is for a man to "be united to his wife and they will become one flesh" (genesis 2:24). God created sex in marriage to be shared, not withheld.

And when romance, tenderness and sex are withheld , a sense of loneliness sets in, that can ultimately result in emotional and sexual temptation.

Physical intimacy is not optional in marriage. When you ignore this God-given command to cultivate intimacy and romance with your wife, she is left with a void in her soul. Your romantic and sexual advances have tremendous power to set her apart as a woman and affirm her value. But rejection in the bedroom places her on emotional disorder. A marriage devoid of romance and sexual appreciation with each other is not how God designed marriage to function.

God gave us romance in marriage so that we could frequently celebrate our love spiritually, emotionally and physically. As you discover ways to romance your wife and learn how to serve each other, you grow together as a couple. You and your wife "become one" Some people lost their feelings in marriage out of one problem or the other. Is your sexual desire being siphoned off and satisfied by a regular diet of pornography and masturbation? For many men, pornography and masturbation have become the preferred expression of their sexuality cos they represent "no risk" "no failure" approach to sex. Some men are out of touch with their emotions simply because they are working too hard.

Sin can suppress our most powerful appetites. Do your wife's past sexual experiences before marriage anger you or intimidate you? Did someone touch you inappropriately when you were a boy? Past sexual abuse can truly inhibit healthy sexual expression in marriage.

Did you grow up in a family where you were made to think that sex was dirty. Were you made to feel shame for your interest in sex? Whatever the reason , a man who refuses to address his low libido and meet his wife's need is putting his marriage at great risk.

If you are wrestling with these issues, and if talking with your wife about it is too difficult, please seek help from God and you also need a counselor. Do it for the sake of your marriage and family, God will help you rekindle the sexual side of romance with your wife.

Meanwhile couples should always bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another.