LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP

Urhmmm he came back from abroad and came with his folks to see your folks, seeking your hand in marriage. . . . .upon hearing he's from abroad, you dumped your lover and quit your relationship of 3yrs and within a couple of weeks, you're married to the guy who just came from abroad.

After a few weeks, he returns back to his base (abroad) with the promise to work towards you joining him over there in no distant time OR he promises to always send you a certain amount of money regularly. He not only leaves you with his folks, he also probably leaves you pregnant.

From time to time, he sends you money and visits once in a blue moon. Your relocation however suddenly becomes a no go area as a topic of discussion because, things aint going quite as he planned and expected, hence you're left with no choice but to remain here.

.............Out of the blues, you notice he seldom sends money to you and does'nt really call as he used to. . . . . .in no time, the money stopped coming and no more calls. You're left to fend for yourself and your baby, to make matter worse, you are not financially empowered!......these goes on for as long as only God knows.

Suddenly you're just realising this aint what you bargained for. Now you're telling whoever cares to listen that, your husband does'nt love you at all and he's a selfish man who decieved you into marrying him, infact he's a gold digger. .. .. .. .. ..babe if i tear you whozing ehnnn....abeg make i hear word.

Who is selfish here? You left your relationship of 3yrs just to marry a man who came from abroad and you have the nerve to accuse your husband of not being inlove with you? Do you love him? Did you marry him out of love or you married him because of his money and the fact that you saw him as a ticket to going abroad. Who is the bigger deciever between you both? You who pretended to love him and still went ahead to marry him for your own selfish reasons.

You dare say he's a gold digger? Where is the gold in you? Do you even possess silver, bronze, ordinary copper or even common Cowries? Even Coins sef you no possess come dey halla say the man na gold digger, please I ask again, where is the gold in you? Many girls are in this situation today. They dived into marriage for their own selfish reasons. Got married to a man for his money/for the mere fact that he is based abroad and not for Love. Do i blame the men involved here? Not at all.

Living outside the country aint no joke. These men do somany menial jobs just to make ends meet. Some even go to jail for as long as 15yrs. . . . ."SOME" ladies who often falls like a moving train, faster than the speed of light, as a pack of cards for men who came from abroad, usually ends up as married spinsters. Just a few Lucky ones don't get the misfortune of ending up as a married spinster, for their husbands relocated them overseas.

Aint saying it's wrong to marry a man who is from abroad but atleast let it be that you're marrying him because you love him for who he is, and not for what you feel you'l gain by marrying him. A girl who didn't marry out of love but out of lust for material gains surely deserves whatever hardship she faces in such a marriage.

Marriage aint a ticket to material gains, marriage aint an escape route from singlehood. Marriage aint for the immature, feeble/petty minded. Look before you leap! Its a known fact that the daunting economic situaion of Nigeria is nothing to write home about but, it's the same situation almost all around the world.

Truth is, you will not know till you come out of it. Ladies frankly speaking, some of you don't know what you want. Be you abroad or home, just pray to God to provide you with your own Man. Afterall If you take the statistics you will see that there aint no marriage without it's own turmoils be it home or abroad. All you need is a good God fearing man. Young lady, it aint about getting married, its about staying happily married......but how can you stay married as a Sad Married Spinster all because of what??? Does it make any sense to you?